You can stroke a client’s head for a long time and the solution will stretch for a couple of months or you can painfully but lovingly point them to the root of the problem.
During our therapy:
· I exited and moved on from a non-resourceful relationship
· I shone a light on my parts and acknowledged them: here is my 'Soft and Vulnerable Anya,' and here is 'Anya the Protector' who won’t be bullied and will bully back if needed! And here is 'Anxious Anya,' and this is 'Anya who needs recognition'. And all my parts gained the right to exist and began to manifest.
· I explored myself in relationships with men. I even had experience participating in a live dating club.
· I found the relationship I dreamed of and this year I am getting married.
I came to Marina in July 2021. Broken: on the verge of a breakup in a relationship that drained all my strength. And in my professional life with accumulated anger inside and helplessness in many matters. I remember it clearly. I wrote and asked to move the first session from July 5th to July 12th because I was suddenly leaving for a detox in Crimea and I definitely wasn’t in the mood for a 'brain rewire'. And immediately received the answer: …Life is such that there will always be something to make you postpone…"
And I was like: Oh come on! What you gotta be like that?!"
And then came July 11th. Tomorrow is the first session. I realize I need to come with a request. But my head was like a tumbleweed. And here was our first meeting. And for about 40 minutes out of 60, I just sobbed from helplessness and powerlessness. What followed was therapy lasting almost 2 years. It was painful. I even had my own rubric called 'Unpleasant Marina'.
Marina, hi!
I am very grateful to you for the session and for this experience. You shook me up and brought me to my senses. Self-pity is gone. And even before the meeting, I was sure you were the person who would manage to help me even in 15 minutes. I’m lucky to know you!
I will definitely (if you are open) recommend you to women entrepreneurs and managers who are in great need of your help.
Marina, hi! I have news! I’m moving to another department to a cool new product at the launch stage, reporting directly to the GM with lots of communication with the global team. They just announced my appointment.
Our work played a significant role! The fact that I accepted and let go of the situation with my manager, started looking for development opportunities myself, gained a lot of energy relying on my 'leading' teenager and built my visibility through projects, if I may say so. Now I speak at all town halls and am generally a star not only at the country level but internationally!
Yesterday I caught a thought that I am surrounded by incredibly cool and magical women! And I am grateful to you that you are one of them!!! And immensely grateful for our work!
Marina 'opened' me up in 20 minutes with just a couple of questions. The expected 'being scared' didn’t happen. My head simply didn’t have time to turn on defense mechanisms.
So I wailed.
How? What is this magic of words and their phrasing?
It was hard. In the process. And now it’s good. You know like after voicing out loud what was inside but remained unsaid. Thank you! I’m going to go cry some more.
Perhaps you also need to work through something inside, to open it up, but it doesn’t work without a guide. Write to Marina! She’s great, she will guide you.
And I also want to say something to my mom: you’re cool! You’re so great! Truly: mom, you’re a big hero and an incredible badass! Love you very much!
I chose you by recommendation, and at the first introductory meeting, I liked the specifics. The approach you explained: restructuring a built-in behavior/psychic model. I stayed because exactly this approach worked for me… Every session had a request, work, a model, and a result.
When I felt there were no requests at that moment, I could stop and return when I felt the need again… the work on analysis and restructuring behavior patterns gives a very visible and, in my view, fast result. This suited me much better than psychotherapy with a regularity of 1−2 times a week for three years.
It helps me so much that you exist and that I met you.
I try to be careful not to project onto you or idealize you, to remember that you are a person too but today I thought that I never had an example of a woman.
The kind I want to see myself as specifically an adult.
And when I found you: you have this youthful, completely alive energy, and mature adulthood, and the 'elephant' strength, and what you do…
All of this resonated so much and gave me hope that it can actually be like this.
During these six months, you helped me build an inner foundation. One that wasn’t there before. You never imposed solutions but always guided very accurately and sensitively. I felt support but at the same time I learned to rely on myself, and that was the key change.
Thanks to our work I was able to close important deals, improve relationships with my parents and build communication with my husband differently. The constant anxiety I lived with for years is gone. I stopped winding myself up and reliving situations a hundred times. I began to take things more lightly, understand myself more deeply and approach nutrition and sleep more consciously.
But most importantly, I felt happy and I have more like-minded people around me. Every inner step seemed to change the outer world as well.
Thank you for your work, for your attention, for your precision, for your support, and for being there during such an important period for me.